I work for a software company located above a greyhound bus depot. I just went to grab some donuts and chocolate milk from the coffee shop next to the garage and I met Her sister walking towards me (of course she went way around me to avoid any actual words or eye contact)... Now my mind is racing and I'm shaking uncontrollably...

She goes away to school and comes back for summer every year so She rides the buses a few times each year... Last year I hoped I would see Her sometime while we were still talking... Now that we're not talking it's more or less just frustrating, upsetting, and painful to be reminded of Her... I try to get over Her, but all it takes is something to remind me of Her and I'm right back where I started... It usually takes no more then seeing the same make/model as Her parents drive to make my heart race and my hands shake... Seeing Her sister is quite a lot worse.

She could be on the bus in the parking lot 100 feet away... She could even be beneath me in the actual greyhound station... The music I'm listening to was already painful and now I feel broken again...

Why are women evil?

You could be evil and go after her sister.

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...Damn it.

That is probably my best option. I say again, why are women evil?

Ok Mr Spock

It is, but realizing that relationships don't mean everything isn't.

Ooo, maybe I'm just being hermitical.

It's my way of using emphasis instead of names...

If you're not exposed directly, it will pass really quick. Just don't think about her. Or think about her, but tell yourself that it doesn't have any chance - let your rational thinking prevail over your fellings. There will be many others. Plus if she doesn't show interest in you, maybe she doesn't desrve you. Trust me I'm familiar with your actual state, more than I'd like

She hasn't done anything evil by showing up in her/your town.

You need to make yourself get over her, because in your case, I don't think that it's simply a matter of time healing wounds. Go to school, go to work, get involved in some volunteer activities, make the extra effort to keep in touch with old and new friends, and get another job if you find that you still have time to think about her. Seriously.

Doing these things will allow you to meet lots of different people, and you will realize how much better off you are when you don't waste time thinking your past with her. She has moved on, and now it's your turn to be strong and get on with your life. You are missing all kinds of opportunities by wallowing in self-pity.

You got some serious relationship advice from me... You oughta be grateful and take it because it's rare!

EDIT: Just read the post you linked to. You mean to say that you never actually dated?... She was a friend all along You need to toughen up! If you can't handle a friendship gone wrong, how will you handle a real break up or even tough relationship situations? Don't you want to be "dateable"?

The evil came before that. However, without closure on it everytime I'm reminded of Her I'm still filled with the emotion of it all unable to actually "get over it". She knowingly refused me that closure and felt no remorse doing so. Then again, She's a Christian so She's in the clear because I'm sure God forgives Her.

My old friends are Her friends. They don't talk to me anymore. I'm also anti-social so meeting new people is a challenge, to say the least.

I'm already too exhausted to do anything useful with my time.

She had nothing to move on from. It was never any skin off Her nose.

I appreciate it. However, without knowing the whole story it's more or less just everybody's general advice. "Get over it," "move on," blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

Nobody ever really does it. They bottle their emotions and either change to an unhealthy relationship state of mistreating others or they eventually get distracted by another somebody and start the whole thing over again.

The real advice is that there is no real cure. There will never be resolution and this pain will never really heal. If I'm lucky I'll find a beautiful girl that's blind enough to get involved with me to distract me from my wounds.

Either way, I'll breathe in, breathe out, and put one foot in front of the other. And it doesn't really matter.

It's quite disturbing to see that you boldface all references to her. I would lock yourself into a mental institution and ask that they throw away the keys.

In the past people used to say "you cry like a little girl". Now it seems that the crying is more of a masculine activity. Sad, shy, and not very bright males.

I think I'm gonna have to agree...

Relationships fail, it's an unfortunate fact of life. Basically, listen to wearetheborg.

Where's Linkin Park when you need them ?