oh and @ OP: I don't know if anyone mentioned it yet, but people that do not talk clearly or loudly enough, or just shy away in general, are REALLY annoying.

Especially if they are not receptive to things that you say back. It can easily come off as being stuck-up in this case.

Another thing that i sometimes do is this:

If I find myself in an uncomfortable situation (talking about things and then realising that they dont care, or more commonly it is asif they expect me to continue conversing when the path is not clear, so i have to improvise) sometimes i act like i am offended or annoyed or that they are just obnoxious, even if only slightly (as a kind of automatic self-defence) without realising it at the time. Obviously this is bad (i should concentrate on this more often).

I have never reacted like that, and to be honest it scares me somehow. I don't think that i can articulate how i think it is different, i suppose it is some kind of disconnection and independance, and not having the flow of conversation lead you. Which is nothing at all how i am (which i suppose is simple or naive for such things).

I'm just posting to say I've just had the most surreal girl experience ever. \o/ ZOMG

Whoa. Feels like a special friend for life, and I'm happy, in a delicate kind of way. <3 #^^#

Err so what worked for me socially was just to start acting like other people. There came a point when I decided I actually wanted to (instead of burying myself in the nearest computer), and I tried making some politically incorrect jokes like everyone else. I actually got fifteen seconds of fame because no one expected it of me.

I still have shy tendencies, but to be honest, when I'm tired I just go with them - it's easiest, and it's me. When I'm alert enough, I'll try and get over shyness, and I do it just by thinking about what it is I do wrong, and trying to act differently. It's a lot easier when you're alert.

That guide someone linked for people with Asperger's Syndrome is quite an eye opener. I'd never heard or thought about the two thirds thing before, but as I worked on overcoming my shyness, I think it just happened naturally. I've looked at people more than two thirds of the time when I've fancied them, less when I haven't, very much less when I haven't liked them at all.

I guess people vary, but I do think just having the desire to act the same way other people typically act makes a big difference. And practise when you're not tired.

(OK, I think this is a useful post ... mweheh.)

No, thank you very much. That wouldn't be delicate, that would be meaty.

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This is one of those girl things. You wouldn't understand.
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(Implication being "I think like a girl", not "You lack social skills" )

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Wow, I can see how you drew that conclusion from my post It's complicated and personal, so I'll just say that "\o/" was an insane choice of ASCII art , "special friend" doesn't even scratch the surface, "surreal" was not a euphemism for "wonderful", and "delicate" is the operative word. No one needs to feel jealous.

I want to see Bruce Perry's booty. In a delicate kind of way.

Unless of course he likes sharing

I really didn't feel as if I was showing off. I just meant to be my usual overly outgoing to a funny extent self, and as I said afterwards, I could see how my post didn't reflect what actually happened at all. So Diana, you can take your stupid comment and stuff it somewhere cold.

I love this thread.

Yeah I chose Matthew's booty because it's so damn foxxxy

Do you even have to ask?

Yesno.

Sit down before you continue to read. It's not a picture of Matthew! Last picture I saw of him I thought he looked a bit like a hard rocker, which is cool.

Like a snow flake - cold, delicate and fragile?